Try going to Auto Zone to get a free reading of the check engine light code, this will give you an idea of where to start troubleshooting.
I have the same issue with my 2005 Highlander. I took my SUV to two Toyota dealerships and Pep Boys. All results came back that my Caliber Converter needs to be replaced. The part comes from Toyota and costs approx. $750 plus labor.
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