What is the best performance upgrade?
Hard to say, but you could probably get away with an improved exhaust system and cold air intake, for starters. Without spending too much money, those will get you a few horsepower and a different exhaust note. Might suggest googling "Honda accord performance" or something similar, as I know some guys go as far as to swap in acura engines, etc.
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